Empathy Circle Café Online - We Listen and Speak Freely

Empathy Circle Café Online - We Listen and Speak Freely

With so much uncertainty in our trying times, many of us are seeking safe connections to each other. Empathy Circles are designed for that!

By Bill Filler

Select date and time

Thursday, January 9 · 6 - 7:30pm PST

Location

Fullerton

Online Via Zoom Fullerton, CA 92831

Agenda

6:00 PM - 6:10 PM

Explanation of the "How to" of empathy circles

6:10 PM - 7:20 PM

Groups of 4 to 5 people go to breakout sessions and practice empathy circling

7:20 PM - 7:30 PM

Review and final feedback

About this event

What is An Empathy Circle?

An Empathy Circle is a structured dialogue process that effectively supports meaningful and constructive dialogue. The basic process can be fairly easily learned in about 15 minutes and it is a lifelong practice to deepen. An Empathy Circle increases mutual understanding and connection by ensuring that each person feels fully heard to their satisfaction. The practice is the most effective gateway practice for learning, practicing and deepening listening and empathy skills, as well as, nurturing an empathic way of being.

Benefits of the Empathy Circle Practice


Implementation

  • Easy to DoDo it anywhere and anytime. No requirements or prerequisites.
  • Free It requires no money investments whatsoever.
  • Easy to Learn and Teach
    the basic practice is easily learnable. With a short instruction, 2 or more people can begin within a few minutes.
  • Multiple Purpose
    it can be used for personal goals like solving a conflict in families, or it can be a facilitation tool for trainers, etc.
  • Most benefit for Least Amount of Effort get significant results in the minimal amount of time.
  • Multiple Contexts
    A circle can be started quickly in any context: family, friends, work, community, school, churches, book clubs, politics, etc.
  • Anyone Can Do It
    no need for a PhD in psychology to get to the core of important issues.
  • Easy to ReproduceEmpathy circles can be easily learned and implemented which means they can spread rapidly.
  • A Gateway Practice
  • This practice is a gateway or foundation for many other practices and processes.
  • For example practices like: Counseling, Nonviolent Communication, Focusing, Motivational Interviewing, Mediation, Conflict Resolution, Marriage & Family Therapy, Human Centered Design, etc
  • Expandable
  • The basic empathy circle can be expanded on. Like a container it can strengthened.
  • For example, you can build on the basic empathy circle by adding different exercises such as intention setting, check in, at the beginning of a circle.


Personal Benefits

  • It Feels Good It feels good to take part in meaningful and constructive dialogue. It feels good to be able to fully express oneself and feel heard. It feels good to listen to someone else and feel one is contributing to their well being by listening to them.
  • Nurture an Empathic Way of BeingYou become more open, authentic, caring, trusting, grounded, stronger, and able to see the humanity of everyone. It enhances quality of life and overall well-being.
  • Build Empathy and Other Skills
  • Empathy skill: Empathy is a skill that can be learned and needs to be practiced, an Empathy Circle gives you a structure to do it.
  • Other skills: communication, reflective listening, empathic listening, cognitive, conflict management, emotional intelligence, etc.
  • Build Closer RelationshipsDevelop trustful and deep relationships with empathy circle participants and others.
  • Brings ClarityGet a clear understanding of your own and others perspectives.
  • Clarify Your Thinking It's an opportunity to express your thoughts and have then reflected to you. It get's the thoughts out of your head. You see how they are taken in by others, which helps test them. Also having this reflecting by another, is like having 2 eyes on the thoughts, which gives a sort of binocular vision and depth perception. This helps clarify and deepen your thoughts.
  • Share and Purge in a Safe SpaceA place to safely 'purge' your pent up feelings. When participants come into a circle, they often have pent frustrations and up need to express themselves and feel heard and seen. The circle offers a space for that.
  • Allow Space for Creative SolutionsOnce participants feel heard and seen, they feel more space for creative thought. They are able to create they own solutions.

Frequently asked questions

Can anybody participate in empathy circles?

Yes, it is an easy to learn process that not only everybody can participate in but quickly learn elements in the process that can be applied in every day life to experience deeper connection, better mutual understanding, and care.

Can I become a trainer for empathy circles?

Yes, we conduct training events in person as well as online on a regular basis. Trainings are on donation basis.

Can empathy circles used between family members?

Yes, very much so. It might require a bit of experience before one can take it to our core relationships but when done right empathy circles have the potential to unlock stuck family dynamics and even long-standing issues just through the structured practice of empathic listening,

Organized by

"I’ve been able to deescalate possible confrontations, and more importantly, deepen my communication with loved ones and friends. "

I’m very enthusiastic about the practice and the benefits that it has brought me. I’m a retired Special Education teacher that taught and counseled students with extreme emotional challenges. Their behaviors put them at risk for removal from their families and possibly institutionalization. The task of my team was to give our students insight into their situations and provide pro social alternatives to their disruptive and dangerous behaviors. When a student was violent, we would sit down and ask ourselves, “What was the communicative intent of the behavior?” Once identified and addressed, we saw a vast decrease in the need to act out physically. A large part of our therapeutic intervention was to help our students feel heard.

This is the essence of the Empathic Listening Circles and it provides great benefits to everyone, not just to people in crisis. I’ve found that I’m more self aware of the effect that my communication styles have on others. I’ve been able to deescalate possible confrontations, and more importantly, deepen my communication with loved ones and friends. This is a benefit that only grows over time.

I also have joined the Empathy Tent team in going to demonstrations of both the Left and the Right, offering listening and dialogue to all persons who wish it. What I’ve found is that once you listen to a person without judgement, the labels tend to fall away and two human beings emerge. I sincerely believe that if we are to address the great challenges that we face successfully, we have to do it from within a culture of Empathy, where everyone feels heard. I encourage everyone to participate and spread the Empathic Listening Circle practice and start our societal healing. In the future, when your children and grandchildren ask you what you did in this time of crisis, you can say, “I did my best to listen and help others feel that they were a part of our human community.”

Sincerely,

William Filler, MS